Thursday, June 9, 2016

One-Liners



Free thinking and critical thinking are not the same. The former invites thoughts with no filter whereas the latter seeks understanding.

When we err it is better that we admit to it especially when it is pointed out to us rather than us harming our soul when defending the error.

Had we said 'why me?' as often when good happens we may be less happy. Likewise, when bad happens take it on the chin and move on.

The cemeteries are filled with people who may have considered themselves indispensable - be a teacher - leave a legacy death is certain.

Mufti Menk: The real test of a man's integrity is how he reacts when he's been proven wrong. Blessed is he who's able to admit his mistake graciously.

Every day I must find a way to tread life's highway and so I pray that I do not fall prey to the evil on display so help me God this day.

The prisons of the world are filled with people who are imprisoned by their thoughts and hatred .. The prison of the mind is dangerous.

A child's confidence sways much the same way as an adult's. Reprimanding them only can be counterproductive -encourage.

Jumping to conclusions is a sure way to misjudgment. Take time to consider the facts and other probabilities. Reflect.

Mufti Menk: Always leave others in a better state than when you found them. Learn to nurture, encourage, help, smile..; you'll remain in their hearts.

Monday, May 18, 2015

Love taking Lessons


The sun shone brightly in the morning. By early afternoon the wind carried the clouds filling the sky with grey and a few spots of blue. The day was beautiful and the blessings were gathered on the horizon. As the sun made its final bow for the day, one wondered whether the clouds have united en masse to bring a auspicious end to a memorable day. [ 524 more words. ]

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Tuesday, March 17, 2015

A subject of interest


Many followers of the Abrahamic faiths viz Judaism, Christinaity and Islam are unaware that there scriptures forbid the indulgence in usury or, as we commonly know it, interest. The Bible, in both the Old and New Testaments, is littered with this prohibition and the Quran clearly speaks of the abomination of usury 


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Monday, March 9, 2015

Mid-life crisis at Forty




Is 40 or 40-ish the trigger for a midlife crisis or the springboard for greater success? Many people are psychology-driven by this "forty" thing, others are totally blasé and yet others find it a time to make excuses for doing silly things.

Men and women look at things so vastly differently although they may end up doing the same things. Life is but a test and our environment certainly plays a big role. Men develop a view that "there are some things in life we have missed out on and we need to still try and do". It is the period after they have started a family and there was some settling down. Now that the foundation has been laid, the man wants to get out and play.

Women will tell you that they also have missed on things and they certainly need to explore further too. The eternal difference between male and female is most often exposed during this period. The man wants to hunt and be out there with his toys and whoever his playmates may be. The sensitive emotion-driven woman wants to be out there but for a different reason. She looks at her life and says "I have put so much effort into raising the kids while I too was working", I need to be out there being loved and enjoying the finer things in life. 

It ends up being a tricky part of life when people stray and this is not restricted to one gender. But this straying is often to fulfill different needs. The woman wants the sensuality and the man, well, is not so sensitive about the detail. Is this real and can this be avoided and prevented? We cannot guess entirely what goes through our spouse's mind and there comes a time when even a thought or two is not shared. We are individuals and at times one may want that privacy - the privacy of our thoughts. That's not a crisis. The crisis is that, more often than not, people start living passed each other and thereby create different identities - the communication has broken down. This lack of communication allows private thoughts which are fuelled by different environments, by friends and family to steer us on a different path, a path not yet trodden by ourselves. The slightest spark lights the fire and the straying from the marital bed becomes a mistake or regret. Sometimes things spiral out of control and, often depending on the support structure, things are mended in some way or another.

This "midlife" period most likely is not defined at a set age, but anecdotally most changes happen around 40. People reflect on their lives around this time, intentionally or subconsciously (and more often than not it is the latter) and they see in their spouse an obstacle to greater happiness. Sadly, instead of finding a way to address it with the spouse, thoughts are further developed and action is taken unilaterally. The likelihood that you see some shortcoming in your spouse is further exaggerated because, over time, there was no meaningful way to address it.

The ideal person is the one who is young at heart but mature in his/her thinking and ways. The ideal couple is the couple where both parties share the view of being mature youths. Those that live with passion and have it ingrained in the family while be wise enough to build a platform for themselves and the children. Their wisdom will keep them from being reckless. Their midlife will not be a crisis but merely a springboard to take them both to greater heights together.

Forty is not a time to start being naughty. Forty is the age where we should think like a sage while with our spouse we still engage.

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Friends


Family is family and is no way, good or bad, that one can choose them
While friends one can meet aplenty but the one who sticks around is the gem
I never chose to meet you though, as even the first time we hardly greeted
What was to follow was an amazing friendship that I did not believe anything could beat it.
 

I cherish those times when a phone call, a message or a visit made my day
A bond that developed that looked strong that nothing could come in its way
In the quiet of the night, while asleep, a dark cloud may have enveloped our friendship
Your silence ever so deafening as the messages and phone calls you let slip
 

A broken heart I have for I know not what I have done to cause you any distress
Your friendship means so much to me that even now I pray that God you do bless
The joys that you brought to my life for that I can never in any way repay
Some people slip out of one’s life slowly and quietly but you seemed in a rush to get away

 
I sit and wonder about all the times we had and hope that you will soon you will be there
There where we shared much with each other and such was the love our hearts did bear
You have always been a special friend to me and your absence I cannot accept
Pray I will that my shortcomings you will pardon because in my heart our friendship I have kept.